Falling in Love With Ourselves (Short Guide)

Falling in Love With Ourselves (Short Guide)

So there is no doubt that a person can love another person. This is the cycle of life.

We look for love from our spouse and friend.

But we miss one person whom we don’t look onto and that is the person who looks at us through the mirror.

No! I am not talking about bloody mary Jeez don’t think too sinister.

I am talking about you, you see yourselves in the mirror, not the creepy old lady.

If we begin to love ourselves, not in a way that you do with others if you know what I mean, but in a more appreciative look.

We will be able to see our true self and the love that doesn’t go out.

You have heard this phrase couple of times “How can we expect others to love us if we can’t love ourselves?”.

Well, I have to disagree with you with that silly question because sometimes people do love us even though we don’t love ourselves.

People who do love us actually see the hidden quality and the awesomeness that we even don’t see in ourselves.

So if a person fails to love himself self he will lose confidence, happiness, and much more.

See loving yourself is like grooming yourselves. You need to develop yourself, you need to take care of yourself and other things that define you.

All of this can be described as personal development.

See if you love yourselves you need to have a vision in order to have a successful and bright future.

What is Falling in Love With Ourselves?

Falling in Love With Ourselves

So before we dive into the stuff that I have mentioned previously. Let’s discuss falling in love. Here is an overview of it.

We meet someone interesting:

When you find someone interesting it is mostly due to their beauty that seeks other’s attention, but it is also due to their intelligence and sense of humor.

Sharing common things is also a good explanation for diving to the person.

We get to know them:

We then begin to learn more about the person than the person’s physical appearance through which we laid our eyes on.

The more try to get to know, the more we want to find out.

We appreciate the little things:

The person you approach might not be perfect. A little bit of imperfection is good enough.

We accept this person due to its greatest and other cool features and we appreciate it.

We start to trust:

As we get to seek knowledge about this person we learn that he or she is a trustworthy bloke, not like other typical people you enjoy hurting others.

The process of trust is like during construction it takes time to get the full trust of one another.

We get love from them and return it:

Giving and receiving love is the main part of this process, surely we love someone so that they love us.

This is a start-up for new love searching people who are trying their best at winning someone’s heart.

Ok, so I mentioned something before about self-confidence, self-esteem, and personal grooming. So let me explain to you in detail.

Personal Grooming:

Personal grooming is a huge topic to discuss, but here I am going to explain those specific topics that are related to this article.

Self Esteem:

Self-esteem is a particular way of experiencing the self. It is a way of thinking and acting and feeling.

It is your tendency to experience yourself as being capable of coping with life challenges and being worthy of happiness and love.

It is also referred to as a person’s overall evaluation of himself. It is an appraisal of one’s own worth.

There is no scale to measure self-esteem but you can tell whether a person has high self-esteem or low self-esteem by his behavior and reaction to his environment.

Self-esteem is the opinion one has about himself. 

Self Efficiency:

Since I mentioned self-esteem I considered mentioning self-efficiency because they are somewhat related Self-efficacy is a concept related to self-esteem.

It is an assessment of an individual about his ability to perform a task or face a situation.

This is one feeling that builds up as you go on learning and mastering different abilities in life.

In fact, self-efficacy is a strong belief in your own ability to do succeed against all odds.

If you have a strong belief in your ability to learn new things, you tend to develop a feeling of self-efficacy.

Self Confidence:

You need to have self-confidence because that is what mostly defines you.

When you come across someone you need to have broad shoulders, you need to speak up. Don’t get shy and back away that’s not going to help you.

How to Start:

How to Start

How to start to know this handsome devil you are seeing back at me through a mirror. So how do we fall in love with ourselves?

Some people may find this odd and some people may find it funny, but believe me, it’s neither of those.

So, begin with by meeting someone interesting, when I say someone interesting I mean you.

You are an interesting person, then follow your way down the list.

Meet the interesting person within you:

This one is easy, start by closing your eyes for a couple of minutes and start asking yourselves some questions.

What is your hobby? What are you best at? What goal do you want to achieve? What you like to do in your spare time. Do you like to eat? Do you like to play? What is your passion?

Ask freely don’t be judgemental, find an interesting part in yourself. Everyone has and so do you, dig deep.

Get to know this cool person:

So you may not know the answer to some of the previous questions, so take some time and find out all the answers to the previous questions.

Try to explore them.

Appreciate the little thing:

Just like you appreciate you are loved once, appreciate yourselves as well.

The person you approach might not be perfect. A little bit of imperfection is good enough.

We accept this person due to its greatest and other cool features and we appreciate it.

An Ongoing Romance:

An Ongoing Romance

The above steps are the perfect start to know about yourselves and the features you possess. It may take some time like weeks or a month so. but you will get there eventually.

With that, you also need to know the following thing as well.

Start to trust:

When you finally able to the cool dude living in yourselves you need to start trusting in yourself.

The belief that you will not hurt or leave yourself. The process of trust is like during construction it takes time to get the full trust but doesn’t give up.

Give love:

This is important, give yourself love as you give it to your loved one’s. Like your parents, siblings, children, and wife.

You are meant to have love and you are capable of doing so. Do like hugging yourself, telling how gorgeous you look and how strong you are.

Now see this process doesn’t take a whole night, you need to be patient about it.

You have to learn about yourself, about your weakness, about your strength, about your passion that may find interest in yourselves.

Self Esteem:

Self-esteem is a particular way of experiencing the self. It is a way of thinking and acting and feeling.

It is your tendency to experience yourself as being capable of coping with life challenges and being worthy of happiness and love.

It is also referred to as a person’s overall evaluation of himself. It is an appraisal of one’s own worth.

There is no scale to measure self-esteem but you can tell whether a person has high self-esteem.

The low self-esteem by his behavior and reaction to his environment. Self-esteem is the opinion one has about himself. 

Self Efficiency:

Since I mentioned self-esteem I considered mentioning self-efficiency.

Because they are somewhat related Self-efficacy is a concept related to self-esteem.

It is an assessment of an individual about his ability to perform a task or face a situation.

This is one feeling that builds up as you go on learning and mastering different abilities in life.

In fact, self-efficacy is a strong belief in your own ability to do succeed against all odds.

If you have a strong belief in your ability to learn new things, you tend to develop a feeling of self-efficacy.

Self Confidence:

You need to have self-confidence because that is what mostly defines you.

When you come across someone you need to have broad shoulders, you need to speak up. Don’t get shy and back away that’s not going to help you.

You need to know these things in order to understand yourself.

Conclusion!

I have mentioned all the possible details that I found was best relating to this topic.

There are a few that I learned in class in the grooming part.

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